Living The Dream
Four years ago when I uprooted my life to move from Kansas City, MO to San Diego, I wrote a series of blogs called Living the Dream to chronicle my decision to leave my home of 25 years and start a new life.
It’s been a good run and a decision I will never regret.
And now, there’s an unexpected turn of events and beginning of a new dream that I want to share with you.
Here’s what I posted on FaceBook last month…
“Many years ago, I heard a line in the movie Risky Business that changed my life: “Sometimes you gotta say ‘What the f*#!’, Make your move. Every now and then, saying ‘What the f*#!’ brings freedom. Freedom brings opportunity.”
I realized life was too short to stay in a 14-year loveless marriage, so I sought freedom and opportunity.
Since then, I’ve had lots of opportunities and freedom to live my life. I’ve “kissed a lot of frogs,” always trusting that I’d meet the guy who was the right and perfect “prince” for me.
And I’m happy to say that time has come; I’ve met the ideal guy for me. In August, we spent 2 weeks in St. Croix, bought a house and will be moving there as full-time residents next month.
Every once in a while you gotta say “what the f*#!” Embrace your freedom and find the opportunity that’s right for you.”
Needless to say, this news came as a shock to most of my friends and family.
But here’s what I want you to know:
Even in a pandemic, you can find love and happiness.
There are so many tentacles to this story that are worthy of thoughtful blogs.
Blogs about love, loneliness, trust, joy, sadness. faith, adventure and curiosity… more faith and trust… persistence, belief, “doing-the-work,” and never giving up hope…
Blogs about facing massive changes like giving away, throwing or selling everything. (WAY more than when I moved to California…)
Blogs about changes like moving from a city with 6 lanes of bumper to bumper traffic to a US territory where the biggest traffic jam is a bunch of chickens crossing the road.
Blogs about changes like living with another person after living alone for decades…
Think about it… for all my single friends – popcorn, wine and Zoom happy hours probably won’t be regular dinner options.
Most of my friends have wanted “details.” How’d you meet? It happened so fast, how did you know it was right? How do you know it/he’s not a scam? Are you financially protected?
?? What Are Your Questions??
These are all great questions. And there’s so much I want to tell you. And as I’ve learned in the past couple weeks talking with friends, it’s a lot to digest, because most people stop listening to my experience and start wondering: Could I do this? Would I uproot my life and sell everything and move to an island? Could I fall in love again? Why haven’t I met someone I love? Why am I in a loveless relationship? Why am I settling? I wish I could do that…Why do other people have all the luck?
Ack. This list goes on… and on…
Trust me. In the past 30 years I’ve had all of these thoughts when my friends and colleagues fall in love and start a new life. In fact, during this time, some of these friends had more marriages than I had dates. So, I know what it’s like to have doubts about future bliss.
So think about these questions, and any others that crop up for you. What do you want in your life now? And what’s stopping you from taking action?
There are times this whole scenario seems like a Hallmark movie for senior citizens. The alignment and the synchronicity of so many events have been a bit overwhelming, even for a “woo-woo” person like me.
Some people have said: “Why do you feel like you have to explain what you’re doing?”
And here are my thoughts on that.
The people who receive this blog have heard me speak or have experienced my work through coaching, training or facilitated planning or team building sessions. You know the Foundational Concepts of:
- Creating intentions,
- Aligning thoughts, words and actions around those intentions
- Getting Out of B.E.D. (Blame, Excuses and Denial),
- Taking ownership of your Participation and
- Watching your VIBES.
I’ve shared my personal experiences, challenges and successes practicing ALL of these concepts for the past 25 years. And now is no exception.
Choices = Freedom = Opportunity
We’re living in challenging times. The pandemic has caused many of us to re-evaluate our lives and choices. Each choice can bring new opportunities and a new-found freedom. In March, I upped my game, for lack of a better term, in my intentions and what I wanted in my life. And this is what happened three months later.
So of course, I want to share it with you, if it gives you inspiration, hope or a possible course of action for you to pursue for your own happiness or joy.
Stay tuned to future blogs and if you have a curiosity about a specific related issue or topic, please let me know! Reply here:
“Sometimes you gotta say ‘What the f*#!’,
Make your move.
Every now and then, saying ‘What the f*#!’ brings freedom.
Freedom brings opportunity.”
Marty Stanley is a Certified Speaking Professional who walks the talk. Want to up your game? Do you want to experience more freedom and opportunities? Marty can help you or your organization focus on what’s important and put a plan in place to make it happen. Get focused through individual or group coaching, training or planning/team building sessions.
Sessions are virtual through Zoom and you can wear your jammies. I don’t care. I care about you getting the results you want. 816-695-5453 www.alteringoutcomes.com firstname.lastname@example.org linkedin.com/in/martystanley
For previous blogs on Living the Dream: